One of the major issues affecting the younger people is lack of daddies in the homes. They have not seen daddies in their homes and if they were there, they were irresponsible and never related well with their children.
Last Saturday I was counseling a 19 year old young man whose mother has almost lost all the hope. This is the only child this mother has. The father to this boy ran away. The boy has involved himself with drugs and bad habits and though a bright young man, he has wasted a lot of his time in and out of school. The above is just one young man who missed a dad when it was very crucial.
Our women have done a lot to bring up these young men while they are single mothers and I highly commend them. But when these young men become teenagers, it becomes very difficult for the mothers to cope up with them. This is where a dad would have played his rightful role in modeling the young man to be a man. This is a crucial stage of moving from boyhood to manhood.
Psalm 127:1-5
"Unless the LORD builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; Unless the LORD guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, To sit up late, To eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep. Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate. "(NKJV)
WHAT IS WRONG WITH MEN?
First of all, I must recognize the millions of Godly fathers who are doing it right. I see men but there are few daddies. But, we must honestly acknowledge that our country is in a major crisis as regards the disappearance of fathers.
(1) Many fathers are invisible. The number of children being born out of wedlock is increasing day by day. A few of these fathers get involved in the lives of their children, usually from a distance. The overwhelming majority don’t. They just move on to impregnate another woman to whom they are not married and for whom they have no responsibility
(2) Many fathers abandon their children. The divorce rate in Kenya is increasing rapidly. A small number of such fathers do assume responsibility for their children. While money and limited time with the children are certainly helpful, this does not make up for not being a full-time father in the home. Unfortunately, the number of fathers who simply walk away from their children as though they did not exist is very high.
(3) Many fathers rob their children. Bible reading, prayer, and spiritual mentoring are often not practiced by fathers in the homes. The father in the home is supposedly the spiritual leader.
(4) Some have mistreated and abused the children. There is a lady who was abused by her own father and has found it very difficult to forgive him.
(5) Others have run away from their matrimonial homes because they have found other "mistresses". This is one of the main causes of families breaking up. This greatly affects the children,
GODLY DADDIES PRESENT IN HOMES
(1) Godly fathers teach their children how to love by openly loving their mother.
(2) Godly fathers produce godly children by having a personal and intimate relationship with their children.
(3) Godly fathers build self worth in their children.
(4) Godly fathers encourage vision, hope and purity in their children.
(5) Godly fathers guarantee perpetual endowment. Their children believe he will never desert them or their mother.
The cry from these young men is real. They try to really seek for identification. They are yearning to get their rights from a world of irresponsible fathers. They do certain things, not because they are right, but to try and fill up the emptiness that they have. I believe we can change the situation if all of us can take up our rightful roles in the families and society.
Don’t run away from your deeds and actions. Face them like a man. A man ought to take up his position and face the challenges with boldness and reduce the weeping of the young men as children are a great blessing from God. ‘Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate. "
What a joy to have children and particularly when you see them grow up and become responsible citizens in our country. You can do something to minimize the cry.
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