BE THE MAN IN 2019

2019 is here with us. You can do nothing about the year that ended but there is a lot that you can achieve in 2019. I am normally in lots of pain as I see men not taking their rightful positions in life. In the 80’s and 90’s there was a lot of emphasis on women and girl children empowerment. The man and the boy child were disadvantaged as they were not empowered on how to deal with an empowered woman and girl child. I am also in pain in seeing how grossly irresponsible the men are as they defile the girl children in their lust for sex. We need to respect our girls as future wives and mothers and not take advantage of them. There is a lot that the men can take care of this year. Let’s be responsible men in 2019.

In 2019 desire to have these characteristics:

1. BE THE LEADER. A man must be a leader in a relationship, in a marriage, in a family. There are no excuses. A woman doesn’t want to make the decisions for her man, she wants her man to lead. A man must take initiative. He’s a leader, not a follower, a servant, not a slave, a hero, not a coward. Every man needs to know his position. If you have sired children, take up the responsibility. You are the leader and you we born to lead. You should be the leader spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically and set the standards for others to follow.

2. BE THE PROVIDER. “Treat your woman like a queen and you will live like a king.” A real man will do whatever it takes to provide for his loved one. In finances, in basic needs, as well as what she desires. If a man can’t provide, he isn’t a man. A real man treats women with the utmost care, honor and respect. This is the joy of being a man. Make the difference in 2019. Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Tim 5:8.

3. BE THE PROTECTOR. A real man will protect his spouse. He is willing to lay down his own life, needs and wants to protect the one he loves. A woman needs to feel secure, that she is safe with her man. She doesn’t have to second guess or have heart played with. Don’t toy with a woman’s mind, and be up front and clear with your intentions and direction of the relationship from the start. In other words be there for your wife and children. They value your presence. Do all that you can to protect your family in 2019.

4. BE THE COURAGEOUS MAN. Women love to be around courageous men who can face any issues that can arise. They will look upon you to see what you are going to do. Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their ancestors to give them. Jos.1:6 Be a man of adventure, a man who is willing to take risks and do the impossible. Men were born to live a life of adventure and battles. Men were created to live. They are fearful of failure and imprisoned by their own thinking. They are people pleasers, who live for the approval of others in society. They are afraid of how others may reject them, if they choose to take the road less traveled.

5. BE A MAN INTEGRITY. In 2019 purpose to be a man of integrity; keep your word. Do things in the right way. Many men in our culture break promises, play with women’s hearts, and date girls as if it was a game. Words mean nothing if they are not backed up with action. Integrity is about doing what is right, whether people are watching or not. Words carry weight, and a woman knows when a man means what he says. So live by your words, live by action, be.

6. BE DECISIVE. Decisiveness simply means being the leader of your own life. Decisiveness is both a skill you can build and an internal state you can summon when you need it. Don’t procrastinate your decisions. Be firm and act in time.

7. BE RESPONSIBLE. When you are responsible, you don’t postpone a task because it makes you uncomfortable, or it is something you really don’t want to do. Live up to the promises you make, not just to others, but to yourself as well. Learn to manage your time in order to accomplish your goals but at the same time, don’t take on so much that you become overwhelmed. Take care of your commitments. Each step we take towards being responsible and productive helps to raise our self-esteem and our relationships with friends, family and co-workers improve ten-fold. Being responsible pays big dividends.

You can be the man you ought to be in 2019. Make responsible decisions and actions and stand firm for your family. Be there for your family and take the lead in being the man in 2019.