Change Your Circumstances

Change is a must for any man who wants to excel. Change is hard. Our circumstances are often a product of our own bad habits. Most men want to enjoy the fruits of success, but sometimes they can be their own worst enemies. Bad habits can be broken and good ones acquired. If you're looking to change, let me suggest that you begin by identifying those habits that get in your way first.

Men struggle to change:

a. We respond to crises and errands rather than goals. 

b. We take action based on what feels urgent.

c. We react to life instead of anticipating it. 

d. We don't have the discipline to plan.

e. We don't listen well and are motivated to communicate our needs before hearing out someone else.

f.We are selfish, seeking to meet our own needs first, often at the expense of others.

g. We don't exercise our imagination in helping others out and we are content with managing what exists rather than creating possibilities.

h. We don't work at improving themselves on a regular basis.

Men resist change because of:

1. Self-Interest.

Change is an unfair imposition on their territory. They need to exert control over their immediate surroundings, and want to feel like they have a say in their own future. Like it or not, men are territorial and want some sense of power.

2. Misunderstanding or a Lack of Trust.

What men don’t understand, they will resist. Just because you see why you need to change doesn’t mean they will. They have to trust what is being propagated and helped to understand all the issues and options.

3. Differing Ways of Assessing Things.

Men have opinions, and may see the cost as greater than the benefits. Men look at issues in their hands differently.

4. Men Lack Confidence in the Decision-Making Process.

Decision making is not as easy as people would think. Mistakes are costly and you will find a lot of men fear making decisions that may backfire.

5. Lack of belief on the information given.

All the relevant information has to be included in the process, or men will not trust the person in charge of implementing the change. If they’re not confident that the cost is worth it, they will fight against it. The key here is to be sure they are aware or involved in process.

6. Most Men struggle with change

There is need to figure out where they’re uncomfortable. When that happens, you can focus on what really matters.

Seek for the following men that can help you change or add value to your life:

· Mentors: Identify men who are willing to coach you. You need different mentors in your life. No one can teach you everything you need to know. One person will teach you in one area. Another person will teach you about something else.

· Role models: Identify your role models. These are men who are already doing or have already done what you want to do. Many of the skills you’ve learned in your life, you’ve learned by watching others.

· Partners: Identify your partners. These are men that you can feel very comfortable working or doing business with. They are men who can support and challenge you on whatever you are doing or intend to do through your life.

· Friends: Identify friends who can add value to you. Friends don’t necessarily help you with your goals. They’re just friends. They love you no matter what you do. You can mess up, and they still love you. A friend walks into your life when everyone else walks out. That’s when you know who your friends are.

Seeking for a change is risky and tough for most men. Most men generally take the path of least resistance and migrate toward comfort zones. This is why it is important to address the matter of change to men. We must seek for mentors, role models, partners and friends who must come forth and model courage and call forth courage so as to help us change our circumstances.